I provide individual counseling for men struggling with sexual addiction, porn addiction, and relationship counseling for couples deeply wounded by betrayal and infidelity.
My desire in becoming a counselor came out of my own recovery work and healing journey. That journey helped me find freedom and restoration for my marriage and for me from addiction.
I have a deep desire to help men and couples find their own restoration and a deeper intimate connection in the same way my past counselors have helped me and my wife.
I find great fulfillment and joy working with men that struggle with sexual addiction and porn addiction. I love what I do!
I received specialized training in treating sexual addiction from Dr. Patrick Carnes and obtained certification as a Sexual Addiction Therapist. I did not just go to college or a training program and read about recovery from sexual addiction. I also personally lived “the life” and went through my own journey of recovery. Who is better able to help you than a counselor who knows what you are struggling with and also personally knows what it will take to heal?
My area of focus in counseling is to work with clients who struggle with sexual addictive behaviors, pornography addiction, multiple affairs, trauma (physical, emotional, spiritual), and men who struggle with anger.
I work with clients to determine the underlying wounds or trauma that he is using the sex to numb, medicate, escape, and alleviate. Sexual addiction is not just about wanting more sex but rather it is a relational and intimacy wound that began in early development. The “wound” is usually related to past abandonment, physical or emotional abuse, rejection, low self-worth, shame, and/or disconnection by parent, caregiver, family, and friends.
The sexual behaviors have become a pseudo-connection that will never hurt him, leave him, or reject him. The goal is not simply to stop the sexual behaviors but to learn new ways to connect and trust others to meet his needs.
I am certified in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. The goals of Emotionally Focused Therapy include helping each partner become more aware of the emotions driving their negative cycle. It is especially valuable for couples who want to improve their connection, fight less, and understand each other better. EFT is never about identifying one partner or spouse as “the problem,” but rather the enemy is the negative dance that pushes both further away.
I have been married for 34 years so I fully understand that successful relationships are not easy and require committed ongoing work. I bring my real life experience along with 20 years of working with couples and hours (upon hours) of relationship training. I so enjoy helping couples stop the fighting and find connection, passion, friendship, and romance again.
When there is infidelity or betrayal in the relationship, the bond suffers a major injury. Few experiences can be as painful or cut so deeply as the betrayal and trauma of infidelity. As challenging as it may seem, healing is possible.
I have received specialized training and supervision working with couples experiencing the devastating hurtful effects of infidelity and betrayal. I will work with you and your partner to focus on (1) healing the relationship injury and wounds caused by the infidelity and (2) helping to guide your relationship back to a strong bond for trust and restoration.
I believe each of us has been created for a purpose. My purpose is helping men find freedom from the negative cycle of sexual addiction, porn addiction, and restoration of their relationship.
When we work together, whether you’re reading my articles on sex addiction recovery, working in my online sex addiction group, or meeting with me one-on-one, the first thing you’ll get from me is my strong commitment. Commitment to support you on your healing journey and guide you away from destructive addictive behaviors into a life worth living.
What you will experience from me is that I am 100% in your corner, always believing in the best of you and helping you when it gets painful and hard. Because it hard! Most everything worth achieving in life is difficult but I am here to cheer you on because you are worth it! I love being part of your healing journey!
I extensively study healing from the wounds of sex addiction, trauma, attachment injuries, and ways to help couples restore their bond. I highly prioritize continuing my training and learning to ensure I’m consistently giving my clients nothing but the best.
Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist (CSAT)
Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist (EFCT)
Certified Emotionally Focused Individual Therapist (EFIT)
Licensed Professional Counselor in both Texas and Colorado
EFT 4-day Externship
EFT Core Skills Plus Advanced Training (60 hours)
EFT Beyond Core Skills Stage 1 & Stage 2 (64 hours)
Restoring Broken Bonds: Healing Relationship Betrayals & Infidelity Training
EMDR Levels 1 & 2 Training
Experiencing and Working With Shame EFT Couples Training (Trainer: Rebecca Jorgensen)
Masters Degree in Counseling (MA) & Masters in Business Administration (MBA)
Fees: $170 for individual counseling and $180 for couples counseling
I provide online video (Colorado & Texas residents) and also in-person at my Round Rock Texas office.
Office Phone: 512-856-6360
Email: kevin@hopecounselingtexas.com