By Michael Ballard, MA, LPC on Sunday, July 17th, 2016 in Anger Management. No Comments
There are Four Key Filters:
Facts are what our eyes, ears and touch tell us and our filter is the way we think about and interpret these facts. Facts are things that happen, and our filter is the lens that we use to see those things. Our filters are like glasses that we were to see the facts. When things happen, we use a filter that makes conclusions and evaluations about what happened. We don’t see events. We see what we think of the events.
It’s like a camera filter. You can look through a camera filter and see the world in sepia, even though that is not really what the world looks like. But through your filter, that is what you see. And it seems real. You don’t think you are looking through a filter, you just think that is the way it is. But the reality is that the filter has totally changed the picture.
In the end the assumptions in your filter often have almost nothing to do with reality. You take some facts and create a completely distorted picture out of it. We do this all the time. We make assumptions about the motives and feelings of others–often incorrectly–and then get angry because of this.
Your filter is your opinion. It is the conclusions that you make based on some information. if your filter is distorted, it will lead you to trigger thoughts, which will lead you to anger.