Recovery Journal Writing
By Kevin Leapley, MA, LPC, CSAT on Sunday, March 1st, 2015 in Sexual Addiction. No Comments
By Kevin Leapley, MA, LPC, CSAT on Sunday, March 1st, 2015 in Sexual Addiction. No Comments
Divide the notebook into these five sections: Childhood Experiences (birth to age twelve), Adolescent Experiences (age thirteen to seventeen), Current Life (from the start of your journal and going forward), Recovery Exercises, and Future Plans. In the Childhood section, record your memories and feelings about your psychotraumatic experiences. Record your positive memories and experiences here […]
By Kevin Leapley, MA, LPC, CSAT on Sunday, February 22nd, 2015 in Sexual Addiction. No Comments
Sex Addicts Daily Renewal Exercise Recovering from sexual addiction requires a daily commitment to working on staying sober and being accountable to another recovering member. Here are some questions that the recovering sex addict can answer daily to another program member: Are you willing to admit you are powerless over your addiction and that you cannot […]
By Kevin Leapley, MA, LPC, CSAT on Sunday, February 8th, 2015 in Sexual Addiction. No Comments
Here are a list of resources for Sex Addicts (books, filters, & groups) and for Partners/Spouses of Sex Addicts: Books and Workbooks For Recovery from Sex Addiction “Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction” by Patrick Carnes “Facing the Shadow” workbook (required for group) by Patrick Carnes Sexaholics Anonymous book (aka “White book”) “Surfing for […]
By Kevin Leapley, MA, LPC, CSAT on Tuesday, February 3rd, 2015 in Sexual Addiction. No Comments
Sex Addiction Recovery: Escape Plan In sexual addiction recovery, an Escape Plan involves your own personal plan for breaking your behavior pattern when you begin to feel sexually triggered and you begin contemplating acting out. Despite you best efforts to work your program of recovery, you find yourself in the midst of sexual obsession, fantasy, […]
By Kevin Leapley, MA, LPC, CSAT on Thursday, January 29th, 2015 in Sexual Addiction. No Comments
Dr. Patrick Carnes has described addiction as the avoidance of reality at any cost and recovery as facing reality at any cost. Therefore, recovery from sex addiction cannot be accomplished without establishing boundaries against using other substances (i.e, alcohol, drugs, or food) to alter your mood or avoid reality. For many sex addicts, stopping the […]
By Kevin Leapley, MA, LPC, CSAT on Monday, January 26th, 2015 in Sexual Addiction. No Comments
Twenty years ago, sex addicts had to get their sex “fix” from public places such as magazine racks, strip clubs, adult bookstores, or video stores. The sex addict had the potential embarrassment of being seen and recognized. He also was limited to the materials offered by the specific establishment. With the age of the internet, the […]
By Kevin Leapley, MA, LPC, CSAT on Saturday, January 24th, 2015 in Anger Management. No Comments
In order to be motivated to work an anger management program, we believe it is important to take inventory of the damage and wreckage of one’s past that was caused by his or her anger. Often those struggling with anger will be in denial of how bad his or her anger has become. There will […]
By Kevin Leapley, MA, LPC, CSAT on Monday, January 19th, 2015 in Marriage Counseling. No Comments
Do you have trouble saying “No” when you really mean it? People who are assertive are generally self-confident, out going, and they know what they want out of life. They also go after what they want with energy and the attitude that they are going to get it. They are usually winners in many aspects […]
By Kevin Leapley, MA, LPC, CSAT on Thursday, January 15th, 2015 in Sexual Addiction. No Comments
Boundary: Printed Materials For many sex addicts, their acting out focused mainly upon images within printed materials (i.e., magazines, internet, newspapers, etc.). Simply seeing an image of a woman, man, or scene can trigger the sex addict into objectifying other people and fall into a relapse of sexual fantasizes. The images don’t necessarily need to […]
By Kevin Leapley, MA, LPC, CSAT on Monday, January 12th, 2015 in Sexual Addiction. No Comments
People Boundaries In our past acting out we have established relationships with people that encouraged our destructive lifestyle. Sex addicts will often make connections with other sex addicts and sex addiction group recovery may require that you give up those relationships (at least for the first year of recovery). You may even look at your […]