Couples Counseling For Betrayal & Infidelity
“Betrayal is the secret that lies at the heart of every failing relationship – it is there even if the couple is unaware of it.” – John Gottman
Betrayal Trauma Couples Counseling
Few experiences can be as painful or cut as deeply as the betrayal and trauma of infidelity. As challenging as it may seem, healing is possible. Through our Infidelity Couples Counseling, we’ll guide you and your partner to greater well-being within yourselves and your relationship.
About one third of couples we see are coming through our center for marriage counseling is due to one partner has become aware of the other partner’s affair or other types of betrayal. Betrayals come in all shapes and sizes, but one partner’s unfaithfulness is the deepest of all wounds of betrayal.
Affairs are not the only form of betrayal in intimate relationships. According to Dr. John Gottman, betrayals of trust occur in many different forms For example, can you trust your partner to listen to you when you are upset or experiencing a scary situation? Can you trust that your partner will place a priority on your relationship, above his work, mother, friends, etc.? Can you trust that your partner won’t hide spending money or run up large amounts of debt? Can you trust that your partner to help you with the kids or other household work?
Couples Counseling With Infidelity
Our couples counselors have received specialized training and supervision working with distressed couples experiencing the devastating hurtful effects of infidelity. Your couples counselor will work with you and your partner to focus on (1) healing the attachment injury and wounds caused by the infidelity and (2) helping to guide your relationship back to a strong bond for a loving and secure marriage.
Your relationship therapist will request that both partners (the betrayed and the betrayer) purchase two copies of the book “Not Just Friends” by Shirley Glass. This book will better prepare you both for the work through the path of healing: through the journey of understanding, the process of empathy, regret, apology and repair, to restoring and rebuilding the relational connection and eventually, the desire to forgive and heal.
Obviously, infidelity can be the end of some relationships, research has shown that most marriages do not end after one partner’s unfaithfulness. Unfortunately, some couples never face and walk through the wounds of the injury, but rather stay stuck in pain, the resentment, and loneliness. While other couples find the courage and boldness to be vulnerable and do the hard work to heal and restore their marriage by seeking counseling with experienced therapist in healing from betrayal. We have those counselors who have the experience and training to help you restore and rebuild your marriage.
Start Today Couples Counseling for Betrayal!
If you are ready to heal and rebuild your marriage relationship after experiencing the devastation of infidelity or other forms of betrayal, please contact our counseling center today to setup a couples counseling session with one of our relationship therapists.